Life after Trauma: my habits (part 4)

Because shame flourishes in secret, on of the most effective action steps you can make is to find a place of safety so that you can #breakthesilence.

Now this may seem different than the other actions we have considered, but shame is insidious and it is broken when you can separate yourself from the thing that brings you shame. You know, to be able to say...

I struggle with this, but...I am more than my struggle.

This happened to me but...my traumatic experience doesn't define me.

I used to do this but...that's no longer characteristic of me.

For each one of those what comes after is super important to you finding freedom. Ultimately the idea is EXACTLY what we discussed last week.

🗣 You are more than your experience or your struggle.

So this week consider your places of safety?

*The place of safety could be found in the services of a mental health professional.

*A safe space can also be a community group for other individuals with a similar story or experience, eg Alcoholics Anonymous.

*A safe space can also be a person who will hear your story and not judge you. And yes, that can exist outside of a professional relationship.

There is no need to suffer or heal, in silence.

In fact, if you don’t have someone in your life for whom this is true then I recommend asking God to send someone. The village is so important to #lifeaftertrauma for both support and accountability. #drgiasays

Life after Trauma: my declarations (part 3)

Happy Monday. This week, we are still pressing into how we overcome, specifically as it relates to life after trauma. Of focus for this week... our declarations. We are changing our language and through this change, we are breaking out of the prison that shame may have had us in.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not encouraging delusional thinking or diminishing the weight of what you experienced. I know and respect that..

Yes, the experiences were horrific.

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Yes, the scars are real.

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Yes, you are still triggered.

but also you are still alive and because you are, there are opportunities for more.

So as difficult as some days will get, after you lean into your pain and have a good cry (or scream), I want you to get up, wash your face and speak to your self and your future.

say it with me:

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I'm alive and there's more. My future is bright. I live in joy!

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I reject shame.

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I will not allow shame to have a place in my life.

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I am more than my experiences

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Healing is a process and my journey is my own

Remember, the pain of now doesn't determine your future and you are more than even the sum of your experiences. #drgiasays #Jesusplustherapy #hope #renounceshame #joy #growth #overcomingtrauma #cbt #affirmations